Monday, September 17 2012

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Lately at school we have been observing social behaviours of human beings and investigating the stereotypical labels that society places upon males and females. It has been said that men oppress women and vice versa. I was intrigued and decided to investigate further through by own super observation skills, not how males treat others, but in fact how males treat each other. And boy oh boy, the things that were brought to my attention were in fact shocking.

During lunchtime at school boys will be boys and of course will follow the social norms by playing footy, maybe a bit of handball and of course just mischievously muck around with one another to annoy a few of the girls. There is nothing wrong with these behaviours and it can be extremely entertaining at times, especially during boring lunch breaks, but I looked beyond these things and actually examined the emotional and accidental attitudes males can in fact have towards each other.

We all know the stereotypical male. Strong, confident, rough, unemotional and sporty, but issues are sometimes caused regarding boys that show emotion and maybe even have a passion for dance, drama, music or even writing or reading. Now these things can be seen as lovely and sweet from a female point of view, but males, especially those who have boisterous and defensive personalities, can be quick to judge one another and in fact can destroy the self-esteem of their peers.

And the sad thing is, sometimes they don’t even realise they are doing it due to the joking nature they can deliver such comments like “You’re gay” (a statement which deserves it’s whole own blog about why that is not right on any levels ) or “What a loser”. Some males can have very little concern and no value for the passions of their mates, unless of course they share that passion, and can see these emotional traits as weaknesses.

But let’s face it, nobody is perfect and each and every person on this planet will share a love for a different hobby or interest which may not seem appealing to another. We should learn to cherish each others personality traits and special talents, as these are what make us unique and sharing with you friends can indeed teach you so much.

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Now don’t get me wrong, girls can also be quick to do the things I have mentioned above, but in a different form and the spectacular thing that stood out the most to me is that when boys work together as a sporting or academic team the mateship they create is unbelievable. Boys can go through fights, blood, and sweat, and maybe even tears sometimes, but at the end of the day it only takes a handshake to fix unsettled ground.

So boys, how about you defy the stereotypical expectations of masculinity and learn to appreciate the individual passions that your mates may have? Maybe they could teach you how to play the guitar or kick a football better? And who knows, maybe the ladies will like seeing a change? Before you judge your mates or attack them for being ‘different’, why not have a go at something new? After all, life is a learning experience and mates are mates for life.



2 Responses to “A Curious Observation of the Opposite Sex”

  1. Dani says:

    Totally agree with the hand shake and they are all good again

  2. Xin says:

    Great blog post Jess! You have keen insight and a sensible head, and the world needs more people like you!

    Sometimes I wish I could just bang heads together to stop people (young men in particular) from being so stupid. I wonder if there’s a way to promote higher levels of acceptance within schools on a systemic rather than personal level?

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