Thursday, June 28 2012

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By Jess

Image by are a difficult bunch of people to understand. Believe me, I would know, I am one.

But when it comes to growing up there are a lot of things that cross our path that force us to make decisions, decisions that we make not always want to make. There are also pressures that build up on us and cause us everyday stress including school stress, financial stress, stress from home and deciding what to do with the rest of your life, and let’s not forget the big decision of deciding whether or not to have sex for the first time.

Sex isn’t a scary word and isn’t something teenagers should be scared of, it is something they should be smart about. But, sex isn’t something that should be taken lightly either. Having intercourse for the first time is a big deal and not something that should be rushed, because there can be consequences.

When you feel ready, you know you’re ready to have sex for the first time; you will know when you are ready to lose your virginity and it is something that NO ONE can force you to do. It is okay to say no to anyone who asks you for sex, whether it be your boyfriend, good friend or even in a long term relationship, you don’t owe it to anyone to say yes if you don’t want to have sex; it is your body, your choice.

Yes, sex is a part of growing up and something that should be enjoyed, but you still need to take care of yourself and be safe at all times. So keep in mind that you should always use a condom or another form of contraception to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STI’s). There is also the question of the big “what if”? What if I get pregnant?

Unwanted pregnancies during teenage years can cause not only health problems for Mother and child, but can put even more stress on financial situations, relationships, future careers and of course living conditions. So, if you are a sexually active teenager, wanting to avoid pregnancy, make sure you are making the right decisions that will not lead to any unexpected surprises. The best way to avoid pregnancy is of course avoiding sex, but that is not the only option. The best way to avoid pregnancy is taking double the action and combining not only the use of condoms as a protective measure, but pairing condoms with the use of the contraceptive pill, which can also protect you from pregnancy and helps a female to keep track of their menstrual cycle.

But in the case you don’t use protection or any form of contraception and if shortly after intercourse you have an irregular menstrual cycle, or are experiencing any symptoms of pregnancy, it is important to take a test or see your doctor; don’t be afraid to talk to someone. Because if you are pregnant, there are people you need to talk to and decisions that need to be made, as well as advice that needs to be received by yourself and others involved. But the most important thing to remember is that you are not alone and people, like family, friends and professionals, can always provide you with a support network to help you in a time of need. Having sex is a big step, but don’t forget responsibility comes with age and you need to make smart choices that will benefit you, no one else. So remember, it is okay to say no, it is okay to wait until you’re ready and it is better to be safe than sorry.

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One Response to “The Big Step”

  1. Xin says:

    When my girlfriend and I were 18, we had been going out for over a year, and I had long been wondering if we were ready to have sex. I knew all about it, and we had gone pretty far in the bedroom, but not all the way. I wanted to have sex, but at the same time I was pretty scared of the idea. And I felt really guilty because I had been raised as a Catholic and my parents didn’t want their little boy doing it. So I put a question out on the internet asking how I could tell if I was ready to have sex for the first time, and someone gave me this very good piece of advice:

    “If you’re asking, you’re not ready yet.”

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